February 28, 2008

Self-Blame

I'm beginning to think that what is most attractive about blaming oneself for the things which happen in one's life, or taking responsibility for them, is that when you say, "If I had done something differently, the result would have been different," what you're effectively saying is that you are in control of your life in some way, that it's your own choices which have led you to where you are. In many ways, it's much easier to do that than it is to say, "What happened was not a result of my own choices," because that is a statement which automatically implies that you had no control over what happened. And not being in control can be truly frightening.